There is no single answer. These are mine.
Writing on emotion, the body, love and the wisdom traditions, from someone still working it out.
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I Am You, and You Are Me
On being separate enough to love someone, and connected enough to care what happens to them.
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Emotion, attention, letting go, the old patterns we carryThe Load That Was Never Yours · Transmit or TransformBody
Exercise, health, stress, performance and flowWhat the Body Carries · Capacity and ComposureLove
Attachment, belonging, quiet love, loving yourselfCome Closer, Go Away · The Quiet KindSpirit
The wisdom traditions, meditation, free willSitting With Yourself · The Everyday SeriesThe Commons
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The Inner Architecture of Performance
How emotion, attention and awareness shape what we can reach in the moment.
The Art and Science of Flow
What it feels like when the self goes quiet, what makes room for that, and what a life looks like when more of it is lived from the inside.
The Measured Interior
Nine inquiries on wellbeing, the body, flow, connection, meaning, setback, and the person who coaches.
I Am You, and You Are Me
On being separate enough to love someone, and connected enough to care what happens to them.
Surrender to Love
Not to a person. To the thing I have been defending against.
The Dimmer Switch
On epigenetics: what it is, what researchers are looking at, and how much of it we can change.
What the Body Carries
On stress, old emotional patterns, and the complicated relationship between mind and health.
The Load That Was Never Yours
On the invisible weight that keeps us from our potential.
Come Closer, Go Away
On avoidant and fearful-avoidant attachment, and the people who love them.
What the Tree Gave
A tree gives everything out of love. The question is what we do with what we have been given.
The Power of Emotions
What nineteen feelings, from fear to awe, reveal about intelligence, love, work and hard times, and how to let their power work for you instead of on you.
What Feelings Are For
Four essays on what emotions do for us, what pressure does to attention and the body, what steers a feeling without silencing it, and how attention is trained.
Where Mine Starts
Loving others was never my challenge. Loving myself was the mystery.
Transmit or Transform
What we do with the pain that finds us.
An Invitation to Joy
What I am building instead of waiting for my life to begin.
Love and Belonging
What other people do to a body, what it costs when they are missing, and why I am still learning to ask.
The Weather You Never Notice
On the quiet states you don't notice: the best idea in this map, and the one with the least evidence behind it.
Built to Calm Each Other
How connection steadies the body, what its absence may cost, and why some of what a nervous system listens for cannot travel through glass.
Beyond the Arena
What sport may teach us about performing under pressure, and what still needs testing.
Capacity and Composure
What training makes possible, what pressure interrupts, and why my left hand works better when I stop watching it.
Bare Attention
Mindfulness began as one part of a path. What the market kept, what it left behind, and why that matters to the people practicing it.
A Few Moments of Calm
What a few minutes of shared stillness can do for a team, what the research does and does not show, and the cost worth counting.
Back Within the Window
What keeps a stressed nervous system locked on, why rest alone is sometimes not enough, and the slow, ordinary work of bringing it home.
Determined, and Free
Do we author our choices or only witness them? A look at the oldest argument, and why knowing yourself may be the part of freedom you can use.
Dance Me to the End of Love
What love costs, what it leaves behind, and why I keep walking back through the door.
Moving Through
What a childhood hands you, what you can set down, and how to tell the difference.
Drop by Drop
How a guarded man is learning to let love in, and why it happens a drop at a time.
Letting Go of What Doesn’t Serve Us
An old parable about a glass of water, and how long we keep holding what no longer serves us.
Against the Stream
What I found when I finally looked over the side of the boat.
The Quiet Kind
Why the love that builds a home rarely arrives with fireworks.
The Many Faces of Love
Seeking it, needing it, not feeling it, and having it around me all along.
Quiet Love
For most of my life, I mistook the wrong thing for romance. What changed, and why the quiet kind is the one that lasts.
Sitting With Yourself
What meditation actually is, and why the hardest part was never the technique.
The Two Five-Year-Olds
Why certain people reach places in us others don't, and why the same fight keeps finding you.
Series
Read in order, or drop in anywhereThe Inner Architecture of Performance
How emotion, attention and awareness shape what we can reach in the moment.
The Art and Science of Flow
What it feels like when the self goes quiet, and what makes room for it.
The Measured Interior
Wellbeing, flow, connection, meaning, setback and the person who coaches.
What Feelings Are For
What emotions do for us, and what steers a feeling without silencing it.
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